Singer Tina Turner shared her “saddest moment as a mother” with her Twitter followers on Friday morning.
Alongside a photo of herself on a boat, dropping a rose into the water, she wrote that she said her final goodbye to her son, Craig Raymond Turner, when she scattered his ashes.
“He was fifty-nine when he died so tragically, but he will always be my baby,” the singer added.
My saddest moment as a mother. On Thursday, July 19 2018, I said my final goodbye to my son, Craig Raymond Turner, when I gathered with family and friends to scatter his ashes off the coast of California. He was fifty-nine when he died so tragically, but he will always be my baby pic.twitter.com/XzZQCdz8tl
— TinaTurner (@LoveTinaTurner) July 27, 2018
Her son died by suicide in early July, People reports.
Fans expressed their sympathy in the comments, and some even shared that they’ve been through similar experiences:
Grief hurts Tina, but your incredibly strong and day by day you will learn to live with the pain ? lost my Logan nearly 2 years ago and everyday is hard xxx love and light to you
— Lee John (@LeeJohnGall1989) July 27, 2018
Dear Tina Turner, I'm just about to turn 50, lost my mom and dad but also my daughter, saddest day of my life, have a cry in private to hold it together for my family but not a day goes by I don't pray 2her. Thoughts and lv with from big fan Brum UK XXXXX
— david shorthouse (@davidshorthouse) July 27, 2018
It is absolutely the saddest moment for a mother, I know. May the love of God embrace you and keep you and your family during this time. May the joy of the Lord be your strength. ~ S.R.F.
— Silver Rae Fox (@SilverRaeFox) July 27, 2018
— Jackson Jones (@johnnyv51) July 27, 2018
Turner clearly waited a few days after the memorial to share the photo, but the fact that she did it at all is significant.
Sharing thoughts and feelings in the wake of the loss of a loved one often helps give people a sense of comfort, licensed clinical psychologist John Mayer, PhD, author of Family Fit: Find Your Balance in Life, tells Yahoo Lifestyle.
Many outsiders who have been through a similar experience can also find some level of comfort in hearing about someone else’s loss of a child, Mayer says.
“You then realize that what you are feeling and thinking is not unusual,” he explains. “It helps make you freer to accept your thoughts and feelings, because many of them can make you feel guilty.”
Unfortunately, these stories can also be triggering to people who have lost a child. “Hearing about this celebrity experience can be very, very painful for many,” Mayer says.
The loss of a child is devastating, but Mayer recommends seeking out the comfort and support of loved ones in the aftermath and help from mental health professional if you feel you need it. But opening up about the experience and talking about it when you feel ready is crucial.
“Don’t hold your grieving in,” he says.